Why I Will Never Marry An Indian


Indian men are assholes in relationships... At least almost all the ones I have encountered.

Whenever I imagined myself with a partner, I always, always pictured him to be a non-Indian man. I have always had this very, very bad image of Indian men because I have seen and met only a few (a number I can just count with one hand) of them who could be called "humane". Let me elaborate.

Since childhood, Indian men are put on a pedestal. They are the higher sex. When they are born, there is a celebration in the house because the penis that is going to pass on the legacy of the house is born. They are given better treatment and respect that girls never get. They are the apple of their mothers' eyes who treat them like a prince. They also notice their fathers being treated as kings at home. So, they grow up to be these men who think that women are doormats.

They do not know how to respect and treat a woman with love and care. They do not acknowledge that she is a human too. She isn't a fucking robot who cooks, cleans, takes care of your children and brings money to the table! Indian men do not like it when their women have financial independence. Even if the women work, they should always make less than the man so that his ego is not hurt. On the other side, if the woman does not work at all, she is made to feel like since she is doing nothing that adds to the income, she is basically useless. 


If the husband ever has to change locations due to a transfer in his job, the wife has to leave everything and go along with him. If the woman gets a similar opportunity, she will have to turn it down because her husband will not be moving just for her. 

Indian men think that their wives are inferior to them. This is because of the way they were raised and they see the sex discrimination all around them - how he is treated versus his sisters, how his father treats his mother etc. Some assholes even find it funny to insult their wives in front of others thinking that it is funny and others will think of them as "the stud". Yeah, it's not funny and you are insulting your better half. You are just an asshole. 

Also, just because you are men, it does not mean that you know more. Even with less education than their partners, these husbands treat their wives like crap. Which is fucking annoying to see! Hello, the woman married below her level and you are trying to up her? 

I have never seen an Indian man taking the side of his partner and saying that his partner is right and he is standing by her. No fucking way. It's always the wife's fault and she has to deal with her problems. She will never find her husband beside her. But in case, her husband has a problem, she of course is expected to let go of everything at hand and rush to him. And have you ever seen an Indian man take care of his baby/babysit while the mother is out with friends? No. It's always the woman who has to take care of the children as if he has no contribution at all in the process. But if the wife isn't able to conceive, that's another hell for her. 

Last but not the least, how Indian men treat their mothers versus how they treat their wives. So, these mothers treat their sons like princes and one day, their prince marries another girl. The mothers cannot handle this and go all bat-shit crazy. Daughter-in-laws are treated like second hand goods. So, what do our Indian men do about it when their mothers treat their wives badly? Nothing. They do not have the balls to stand up to their mothers and tell them to shove it. 



So whom do we blame for all of this? The way the men are brought up by their mothers? The way society encourages this kind of behaviour  Or the wife who tolerates his bullshit? I say that everything contributes to turning Indian men into the SOBs they are now. Since it doesn't look like this is going to change anytime soon, I shall steer away from getting too close to any Indian man. 

PS: I have not replied to most of the comments that agree with my point of view. Sometimes you say it better than I do and I thank you for reading the post and commenting. I really do value your support. 



137 comments:

  1. TOTALLY TRUE.... LOVED THIS !!!

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  2. I am glad you did! Thank you for reading. :)

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    1. I read this and I was thinking how wonderful it is to be tarred with the same brush. A few Indian men are bad so we must all be bad eh?

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    2. It's NOT just a few of you though; pretty much ALL of you are assholes.

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    3. I have noticed that most of my commenters who are against what I say are Indian men. Obviously, they think I am crazy and they are awesome. They are delusional and do not see themselves for how we seem them.

      Being a woman and experiencing life is completely different than when you have a penis. So please. Don't tell me whether my opinions are right or wrong.

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    4. Of course they think we're crazy and delusional - they always blame EVERYTHING on us women! They never stop and think that their behavior may be causing the reaction they're getting.

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    5. Hi Anceeta,
      My name is Raj, I'm an Indian man and I would just like to say that I unconditionally, absolutely, irrevocably without a hesitation of a doubt AGREE with u!! This is something that is systemic and ingrained among indian families especially from India. I was born and raised in England but saw how my dad was with my mother and how my dads family treated her. I have two sister and if they ever married a Indian man that treated them like crap I would beat the shit out of them! Enjoyed reading your article of blunt bold truth, your awesome. Thanks

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  3. Hi Anceeta, I am Edcil Noronha. Reading this blog I do not agree with you completely because you have not specifically mentioned which type of Indian males you're describing about. This blog can be related to the older generation and the village people, as they are the ones who believe in this more. As for my parents, I have never seen them facing this nor is there issues on who earns more and who does the work at home.
    As for the current generation there is nothing like the Male are the kings, even the females do take over and they take over like worst than the males.
    I am not being critical but i just didnt feel right about this blog as there are a lot of Indians who do not stay in India but abroad and I can guarantee that they do not behave the same way...
    If you wish to marry someone who is an Indian, you should know him as a person really well before you marry him.
    Take care.
    a small advise - just research a little bit more when you come to these topics because they can be very sensitive...

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    1. NO DEAR ALL U INDIAN ASSHOLES ,FROM INDIA ARE CHAUVINIST PIGS EVEN IF U GUYS MOVE YOUR BUTT TO ANODA COUNTRY OR ANODA PLANET...AND PLIZ M INDIAN TOO AND THNK GOD STILL SINGLE

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    2. I agree...all Indian males are ass holes. I have seen all around the world..no matter where they go what they do and how educated they. woman is like slave to them..every single line is described beautifully..no doubt about it.

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  4. Hey Edcil! So happy to see you reading this!

    I have lived in Bahrain (studied in ISB), Bangalore and lived in a village till I was 5. The thing is I didn't find any difference in the core mindsets of people in these three places. Nor did I find any difference because of age or generations. Granted that people who were born in the nineties know a lot more and are exposed more to the western culture, they are still heavily influenced by the Indian community and their families.

    My friend was dating an Indian. He was born and brought up in Bahrain, attended ISB and still he was condescending, domineering and a complete jerk. We honestly thought that we were being biased towards Indian guys because not all are the way we projected them. But this guy proved that no matter how many guys claim that they are modern and open minded, they really cannot free themselves from the shackles of society.

    But I still say that there must be about 5% of Indian men whom I would say I would not mind being with for the rest of my life. But I cannot gamble on such a small percentage. And hence, I ruled out Indian men.

    I didn't mean to offend anyone. Just merely pointing out the truth which can be bitter. As for the research, I write these posts based on my experience. It's just my opinion and not a study or survey done. :P

    Again, thanks for reading and taking the time to comment. Do visit again!

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  5. I duly agree on the what your emphasizing and it also depends on the type of parents and the mentality that they are brought up in. As far as I am concerned, I am brought up with a mentality where even the girl gets a right like the men do. And honestly even if the woman earns more than the men doesn't matter because they also have the rights to do what they want.
    Well i got some more points, there are even females who take over the men in the families and they actually rule like Hitler, trust me thats bad. I would rather go for equality, there are woman who have ended relationships in families and else where and yeah men also did. But i like the blog alot really great on the topics that you have brought up.... But this would be the best blog for people who are basically living in India with the Indian Mentality. note that not only the 90s have the modern culture but also the 80s and the late 70s have the same thinking with a wife like we do...
    dont worry when i get the time i shall go through your blogs and maybe suggest you some topics where i dont mind putting in some topics also.

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  6. *smiles*

    A series of comments brought me to this blog, so I guess thats the only plus from reading ISB confessions.

    I admire your 'ugly truth' sort of writing style and take on certain topics.

    Keep up the good work!

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  7. My target audience is anyone who wants to know the truth. I would love to write about Bahraini politics too but it's not safe for me to do so. :(

    I am glad I got another reader!

    Thank you!

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    1. Maybe if u have the BALLS, u can write about Bahraini Men based on your vast experience and third party accounts of the relationship of your friends with others.

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    2. I love local Arab men! I meant about politics and the economy. I don't have the balls to write about that, unfortunately.

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  8. A large percentage of Indian men are selfish, arrogant, and unkind by nature. They are greedy, cheaters, and fake. I made the mistake of marrying one and have regretted it ever since. Although there is an attraction to one of your own kind, you realize he acts like a sheep in front of his family but is a wolf in disguise. I would never let my daughters go near a man from India.

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  9. Hi Meena,

    That is very true. Indian men are such hypocrites and they never take their wife's or children's side. I am glad you agree with me and have decided to let your daughters marry outside your community.

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    1. u talk too much. u can express ur rage over indians in few words. eg: i hate indians.thats all. Hating all indian men wont change the affection, truth, respect and expandable love that we kept in our wives. we love our family, friends,wife,husband,siblings and religion(Jesus). so it dosen't mean that all indian males are rude.

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    2. She can express her 'rage' exactly as she sees fit. This is her blog. If you disagree go and set up your own blog. If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen.... sir. :)

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    3. My thoughts exactly, Staleywise! Thank you!

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    4. Agreed! It's called freedom of speech. Must still be a foreign concept in India, huh?

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    1. I am the queen of generalizing. Why? Because I cannot be bothered to write for those 0.01% of the people.

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    2. do not generalize about indian men like this...as m sure ur father is indian ...so in short u r insulting him too

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    3. so much of hate...not good......not all indian men are bad.....men u r talking about are gone now.....i mean its not even 2 years since u completed ur 12th.....ur experiences are based on wat u saw when u were a child.....u shld vist us again....try to understand us now....perhaps ur mind may change about us......

      think about your father

      there is no need to generalize as most of the indians are of middle class...and a middle class father of a daughter has a huge burden on his head....atleast 10 lakhs for her education...than at least 20-40 lakhs on her marriage..tatz a huge amount of money for a middle class man....now imagine....90% people in india belong to middle class...and out of tat...60% are fathers of daughters....sometimes a son and a daughter..and some times two daughters...now imagine the burden they face...the only thing they can think about is the future and safety of their girl child....so no.....most of the indian men are not bad...yeah our culture is male dominant and there are many unacceptable things which men do...in india...but tat dosn mean one shld generalize all men in one category....

      thank you :)

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    4. Did I say anything against poor or middle class men? Indian men are the same no matter how wealthy or poor they are. And are you saying that because a man is poor, he has the right to be a chauvinistic pig or have ill manners? What safety are the fathers providing? If their daughters get teased on the street, the fathers blame their daughters' clothing instead of punching the bastards on the road. I speak about the majority and you know what I am saying is the truth for the majority.

      Because I am young, what I say is wrong? Where's the logic in that?

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    5. well.... i m sorry....read your other blog....about your past experiences with some men over here...that makes me nobody to tell you whats right and what wrong....am really sorry......


      just wanted to say that....not everybody is bad.....well......m not gonna bother you again...

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    6. YA FUCK U ....PIG

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  11. I always puke at people who are of Indian origin and are 1st or 2nd generation Indians immigrated to west or other developed nations criticizing India. they impost themselves as if they are the pure caucasian white sahib/madam and tries to press their points as if sitting in a top of hill.

    Indian men are small? is that the part why they are ditched? I think you are the one who commented Indian pakistani are small down there?

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    1. I don't understand your English too well to know what point you are trying to make, Mr. Norhona. But if you read any of my other posts you will see that I criticise "white" people as much as Indians. Basically what I do is speak the truth. If you find the truth bitter, I cannot help you. If you don't want anyone criticising India or Indians, make sure that there is nothing to criticize about.

      As for their penis size, I am sorry but I have no experience with that to help you. But I would not ditch a man just because he had a small penis if he was wonderful in all other ways.

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  12. There is some Jim Carreyish touch in your emotional writing.But one must admit that your side of the coin sure does look gloomy.All the best with the men of the rest of the world.

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    1. It's such an honour to be compared to him! Maybe next time you could find your balls and write with your name? And I do not need your wish for I have everything I want.

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  13. stuyding in bahrain doesn't help u understand indian men well enough,perhaps u can talk for your father but please dont talk for mine.

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    1. I will write about whoever I want. If you get offended, you're free not to read. By the way, I lived in India for 8 years.

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    2. fuck u indian man!!

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  14. So much venom, looks personal.
    Is this the story of your home, your mother ?
    My sis is married to an Indian and is doing great, and she doesnt need to lie to me.

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    1. The story is of people like you.

      You know she's doing great because you live inside her mind? Or her home?

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    2. wow u r rite gal

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  15. i agree with you Anceeta. you are a beautiful girl that deserve much better than these Indian men that will never change their attitude towards women. I've heard they even beat up their wives to let go of their stress! proud of you for STANDING UP FOR YOUR RIGHTS!

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  16. I couldn't agree more!

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  17. Dear blogger,
    maybe you are a bit more judgemental about indian males. dont take me posting this comment on their behalf. just for your information- life is not a probability game. say if X product has life of 5 yrs(consider any good electronics), does that mean that it ll never falter. there maybe 1 in a million chance of it being worse than your worst imagination. what to do in such cases. label the brand as incompetent?? Considering the divorce rates in west- marriage as an insititution and concepts appear more flawed in west (statistically speaking) and hence the attitude of both partners. Its true that both partners should be equally responsible to make it work, but is that possible socially? Always one partner maybe excelling than the other(except rare circumstances). Probabaly you are yet to meet a genuinely balanced man. Once you meet him race, ethnicity doesnt matter. Just have a wider outlook on things.

    PS: M unmarried indian male, who doesnt believe in inequalities, except what nature has given. (N this PS is not for some extrapolation. i havent even bothered to know about you. But yes the blog was something which needed to be replied)

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    1. I am judgmental. It is my right to be. And I do not have a problem with men in general;I have a wonderful relationship with a man.

      As for your other concerns, I speak about what happens majority of the time. What I have written above, is what happens for the majority. It is wrong and I am stating that. If you cannot see the inequality in the Indian society and marriages, that's not my problem.

      I did not say anything about the "West". But since you brought it up, let me say that women in the West have much more freedom than Indian women, who are brutally oppressed. I think that if a couple is not happy with each other, they should divorce or end the relationship and seek a happy relationship with someone else instead of spending your life with someone you do not love, as Indian couples do.

      Both partners are in the relationship, aren't they? So they should jointly decide to make it work or to end it. Who is excelling more in their career or life does not affect the relationship of the couple if they are genuinely strong and mature individuals.

      Maybe I cleared up a few things for you.

      Thanks for reading and commenting.

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    2. Look asshole u have no common sense ...the reason y Indian marriages work is becoz most indian women are uneducated and have nowhere to go after a divorce wid their children ....their family disowns them...........

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  18. Anceeta,

    I'm Indian brought up by Christian parents. I was born in Bahrain by the way. I lived there till I was 9. I then moved to a boarding school for 5 years in India till I was 13. I have lived in New Zealand ever since then.

    "They are the apple of their mothers' eyes who treat them like a prince. They also notice their fathers being treated as kings at home. So, they grow up to be these men who think that women are doormats."
    Not true in my household. Both my parents worked, Dad was not treated like a king neither was Mom treated like a queen. I was never brought up to think women are doormats.

    "Indian men do not like it when their women have financial independence. Even if the women work, they should always make less than the man so that his ego is not hurt. On the other side, if the woman does not work at all, she is made to feel like since she is doing nothing that adds to the income, she is basically useless."

    Not true, it's incredibly sexy to see a working woman. I don't care if she makes more than me as we'll be together and be in a collaborative relationship.

    "Indian men think that their wives are inferior to them. This is because of the way they were raised and they see the sex discrimination all around them - how he is treated versus his sisters, how his father treats his mother etc. Some assholes even find it funny to insult their wives in front of others thinking that it is funny and others will think of them as "the stud". Yeah, it's not funny and you are insulting your better half. You are just an asshole."

    These guys sound like a complete twats!

    Also, just because you are men, it does not mean that you know more. Even with less education than their partners, these husbands treat their wives like crap. Which is fucking annoying to see! Hello, the woman married below her level and you are trying to up her?

    Women who are intelligent are also incredibly sexy.

    "I have never seen an Indian man taking the side of his partner and saying that his partner is right and he is standing by her. No fucking way. It's always the wife's fault and she has to deal with her problems. She will never find her husband beside her. But in case, her husband has a problem, she of course is expected to let go of everything at hand and rush to him. And have you ever seen an Indian man take care of his baby/babysit while the mother is out with friends? No. It's always the woman who has to take care of the children as if he has no contribution at all in the process. But if the wife isn't able to conceive, that's another hell for her."

    Depends on how this guy was brought up.

    As far as I'm concerned, once I get married, my wife will never be second best.

    I hope you find your significant other, Indian or not. I just don't want you steering away from Indian men due to the bad experiences you've had with them. It's these sorts of men that gives someone like me a bad reputation.

    Good Luck

    Marlon


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    1. Hey Marlon

      First of all, you are living in New Zealand and I wonder how much exposure you have to the Indians residing in India as well as the mentality of the Indian men abroad. Maybe our generation...born in the 90s and later, will improve the situation of Indian women but I doubt it. I see the current generation and I do not have high hopes for all. Maybe a few.

      I am glad you were raised by good parents and hopefully you won't be one of the husbands I have mentioned.

      Thanks for reading and commenting!

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    2. Hey, I'm in India right now and have been for 3 months. It just so happens (coincidence) that an old high school friend announced his engagement today to me. He's a quiet and usually reserved person and kept to himself. Now...he's totally different and happy. You are right, the majority of Indian men are dicks. You just need to know where the good ones are. Good luck again from Bangalore.

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  19. Indian Guys, Don`t Be Sad!
    She is only taking about 50% Indian Men... Not 100% of Indian Men!
    Other 50% treat their wife as a Queen...

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    1. I'm talking about 99% of Indian men.

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    2. I would agree that it's 99%, at least for Indian men in the US. Keep in mind that most of these men are professors, graduate students, and physicians. Even India's best and brightest treat women very poorly.

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    3. I agree with you Sarina. I am a non-Indian and dated an educated Indian guy. He also holds a senior managerial position. I adored him so much but he treated me like shit. Based on my personal experience, here are my observations about Indian men:

      1. If you compliment them, they think you are flirting and you may be tagged as "easy".
      2. They don't know the mechanics of courtship.
      3. They are cheapskates.
      4. They don't know the meaning of the word "no".
      5. They find it hard to say sorry even if it's their fault.
      6. They will never respect women because they have big egos.
      7. They are grave players, liars, users, and fakes.
      8. Cricket is their life.
      9. They are uncomfortable around women who speak their minds.
      10. They see women are mere sex objects only.

      To all decent women of the world, do yourselves a favor - STAY AWAY FROM INDIAN MEN. THERE ARE A BATCH OF DISGUSTING BASTARDS, PERVERTS, AND LOSERS!

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  20. So ,you are like lady rowdy....but it is your ego that made you post on such issue ,so you go by your girls pride attitude and hopefully get married to a man who have all the qualities you wish for ,I'm afraid that you will ever get married .

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    1. exactly brother:D. ur words are perfect. she dosen't even know to love one another. i think she is possessed by a daemon.

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  21. I can totally understand your feelings and agree with you...and I must say we need more girls like you....and I think all this things depends on our society and how men are raised...hence creating that kinda mentality....i think it has do with who people as a person...then being Indian...but I agree most Indians that way....i will still say...be careful you already are smart...not giving chance just someone is Indian will be wrong...judge them as a person...i am Indian I am not that way...maybe cuz I am from different place in Himachal( kinnaur )...u can test me...i am not lying or defending anyone....just saying not everyone has same mentality.....just judging them cuz they just Indian and keeping yourself away from them I think is too extreme...yet I do agree with you...it's very hard being a girl in India...keep it up...we need more girls like you...

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  22. It's really hard to be a girl in India..true...really need more girls like you...keep it up...

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    1. Your welcome miss...and have a lovely evening...

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    2. u both are demonic jerks. go fuck urself

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  23. Did a pretty Good job Trolling for Western Feminist Agencies! I highly doubt u are an Indian women... but a paid white feminist reject in disguise. So how much are u getting paid for writing this Anti-Indian BullSht that no one reads?

    Everyone in the world know western style Male-hating "feminism" is one of the main reasons Western societies are in decline with 40-50% divorce rate! fatherless children, Gov funded child support, and ultimately destruction of nuclear family or any prospective future that children from good families bear.

    Wondering why children from India and China are so successful? Because they had good parenthood. But being a male-hating trolling Agent of Western funded NGOs u want to bring this BullSht to India right now to destroy our own future! Yea I got the massage alright!

    Give me something new other then the same biased, racist Anti-India, West is all perfect idol BullSht. Because this BS that started since "slum dog millionaire" hasn't really stopped since then, which many Indians are very aware of.

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    1. You are a cowardly git who is the root cause of rapes, child marriages, domestic abuse, infanticide, foeticide and other such problems in the society. Feminism is the belief that men and women are equal. If you don't respect your own mother, I hardly think you are going to improve the society in anyway. Besides, answer me this, why are Indians so successful outside India? I don't even want to lower my IQ conversing with idiots like you!

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    2. What a "standard" reply. This just proves what he said. For those who don't know what this standard reply is, it is accusing the other person (the man who protests) for all problems of women like rape, dowry, child abuse, human trafficking, murder and each and every woman's fart. 99% is not like that. And if they did behave that way, something could be wrong on your part.

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  24. ok this is getting a bit out of hand...take the emotion out of your posts please people. I still think we need to educate Anceeta about the reality so she can at least show a little bit of respect

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  25. Anceeta Martis - You are right about the Indian males (majority of them). Not all Indian men are like that It depends from person to person and probably from caste to caste. There are lots of Indian men who also support their wives financially and see them grow in education, career,etc. Men, also in fact take the burden of the wives family. I've seen it and trust me it isn't fair on him either since he married the girl not the family. I'm sure you just came across some bad men. At the end of the day we all make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. Are you by chance married?

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    1. Precisely... there are "lots" of Indian men who encourage their wives while millions and millions don't.

      What does my marital status have to do with anything?

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  26. You have some valid points, which do apply to some Indian men. I agree that Indian society does not respect women; it really is a long way behind the rest of the world. When I go to India and a man behind a desk refuses to talk specifics about organising a driver with my mother and ignores her, I do feel shame and hate for this man and the society which makes this behavior commonplace. I would like to swear at him and demand an apology, but again, I would have to ask my mother for the right words. I don't think that would be appropriate.

    It sucks that you have been unlucky enough to meet only Indian men of this type. I'm sorry for those that are, but whether its 60% or 99%, I'll keep pushing with hands and feet to expand that minor percentage to which I belong.

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  27. u really did manage to write something well. I am off-course with u, u r damn right about indian boys. I am sick of it, and if you are white girl then u r treated like a sex slave or a whore. Even I run my stop sexism initiative and i find it difficult with indians to talk about sexual objectification, harms of gonzo and sick pornography, sex trafficking as if girls are made for sex for them to satisfy their hunger. Ask indian boys why they want to visit russia or ukraine, to have sex tourism. My girlfriend is white and i m sick of indian boys to, may be because i am Male feminist and brown too idk :/

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  29. I agree. I hate Indian men. I dated a few and will never again. They don't know how to date properly and treat women like shit. Glad I'm dating an American guy right now.

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  30. Can't agree with this article entirely. These are very sensitive topics and it's complex in several ways. I do agree that there are a lot of asshole men (Indian) but I do know a lot of women who are just stupid bitches and don't deserve any respect just like those men. I am talking about the women who take advantage of the rights given to them I mean they misuse it to hurt people who have done no harm to them but only loved and respected them. Source- My Life experience and by the way I am all up for women's rights.

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    1. I completely agree that women can be complete bitches too. But I do not believe that in India men are the victims (in most cases) but women are. And that is what I am stating.

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    2. Anceeta you are absolutely wrong. Men are the victims in most cases. After delhi rape, some amendments were done in the law and since then number of cases has doubled and acquittal rate went up from ~45% in 2012 to 76% in first 8 months of 2013. If you are gonna call 99% as assholes I can call you a bitch as you don't understand our culture. Every kid by nature is more attached to mother. What's wrong in expecting my wife take care of the kids? Why do you want to be equal with men? You are far superior than men. If my wife pokes her nose into a discussion about which she has no idea, I have know qualms in discouraging that, even if its a male doing it. We have better family system now. Loving wives and husbands who live together forever. Great families. We don't ill treat our womem. At least not to the extent that media is portraying. So plz keep this feminism n all those shit in the west. We know what "equality" you want. American men are pissed off with those things and these feminists see a good market in India to make money.

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  31. Hey. Thank you for posting this. I have been actually looking for articles because well, I am a bit confused.

    So some Indian guys added me on a social networking site and get this, MAJORITY of these Indian men were total pervs. At first they'll be like super sweet and caring, until they will say I LOVE YOU immediately which is really funny and send you emoticons/stickers which can be visually disturbing at times. I mean, are they that excited to get in a girl's pants? And then they'll ask for a picture of your breasts and because I was unfortunately lucky, my first conversation with one of the guys was him saying that he loves sex and then comes the very detailed "graphic representation" of what he wants to do to my body. Clearly, they haven't learned R-E-S-P-E-C-T from whoever raised them. Anyway, I just reported and blocked them. Sorry for being a little mad.

    I haven't totally lost hope to find the man who'll wait for me at the altar. I am a practicing Catholic, plus size Filipina who just turned 22, and my life is just getting started.

    I still believe every person have innate goodness (despite of the race). Maybe there are still good guys out there (Indian or not) who are going to love and respect us. And someday, he'll reveal himself when we least expect it.

    Anceeta. Maybe no one can change your views on them and I completely understand because I have experienced it myself. Maybe this is just one of the few things in our lives that we need to experience to help us be wiser, braver and more ready for the real thing.

    All the best!

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    1. Lol. Don't even try this online dating with Indian men. Pre marital sex is a taboo and girls worry being tagged as bitches. Sad that guys still tag women like that. Biologically males want sex. Just remember awkward moment you had sex with a virgin guy when you were young. Women here show off everything but uff... no sex. We just ought to use our hands. This makes guys go crazy. Porn sites receive enormous traffic from India. 2nd level in maslow's pyramid isn't being fulfilled. What else do you expect? I'm not justifying. Just explaining. By the way this is the same guy who ranted about feminism in a prev comment! I really wish things should be completely western style or Indian. Midway is not good

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  32. Nice blog, very narrow minded opinion but it is sadly true. Whatever happened to you or whoever treated you badly i feel sorry for them and your bad experience because of them. Even though everyone might have an opinion about anything anyone says, please try to come to peace with yourself. you are safe now as you mentioned you found someone who treats you right. Men are men irrespective of where they are from. Life is simple, There are as many bitches as much as there are assholes in this world. I wish you well in your life and i hope that the hate dries out soon. Dont listen to these fools who are fueling your hate rather than comforting you from your pain. Nor the ones defending for something they had no idea what your went through to put this in a public forum. Hate is never going to make you feel better, it is going to grow inside you. 'This too shall pass' is something that helped me a lot when i had to be in a situation that makes me feel trapped. Luv your man, live life simply and dont care to hate. I was cheated after an 8 yr relationship. I felt hate, i felt anger, i felt lost and trapped. But I slowly slowly stopped feeling these things when I put my mind to something better, may be for you its your man. Luv him and care for him and make him feel wanted and respected everyday. I hope you treats you right and you smile back at the issues you had in your life like it never happened, that is peace!
    - Allwin

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    1. This post isn't out of some mental problem I have. I do not have anger issues. I have a blog to promote awareness of societal problems by giving people the brutal truth. I do not need comfort or acceptance by my readers. I only want the post to be read by as many people as possible.

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  33. I'm a 25 year old guy from India, and I feel your article is pretty much spot-on. Indian men (including me) tend to treat ladies with disdain by default (although your 99% is pretty much an exaggeration). I'm well- educated, articulate (it shows in my speaking and writing) and well-versed with different cultures, but despite everything I tend to go into MCP mode rather easily. I'm trying hard to change this though. I'm glad your article came my way at the right time. But as a suggestion, try to avoid taking the bra-burning feminist approach. (Even discounting the 'teen' age factor, your writing and content is volatile enough to generate aggressive backlash). Thanks.

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    1. 99% isn't an exaggeration. I am not a bra burning feminist. I love my bras. I believe very strongly in women's right to an equal life. I do not mind the backlash as it is usually from ignorant people and those in denial. I am not a teenager.

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  34. this post is totally amazing!! its completely true what you have said about indian men in general and the way they are treated in the society and at home by people which fill them with all that pride by which they turn out to be the way they are....ive seen it myself with my own eyes as to how men are unequally treated at home by their parents and how they treat their wives and kids. ill share some of my own personal experience about how it used to go....my father(whom i hate and regret for being my parent) is a drunkard and a chain smoker who was (and probably is) jobless and did nothing to earn money. his mother is a crazy old hag that treats him like he's king and says nothing about his habits, but blames my mother for all the bad things that happen at home.
    she treated my mother like shit. the hag's great son abused me and my mom and blamed her of sleeping around with every tom, dick and harry on the block and also tried to feed that shit into my head when i was a kid. then one day he asked her to go look for a job is she had the guts. my mom couldnt take it anymore and walked out of the house....later she got a job in a far off village where they spoke a language she wasnt fluent in and taught english in a school. at this time i was in boarding school and i went to stay with her after one year. he came there too and one day he stole all the certificates and important documents and the passports when my mom was in school and took them all away without my mom's notice....and he did all that just because she was successful and happy. he made a nuisance of the neighbourhood where she lived and made sure that she had to shift....after he went, we (me, my mom and sis) kept going from place to place to better jobs and a better life.
    im an indian boy (well i just turned 18, so excuse me :) ) and i find no fault in anything you have said. it is the society and the upbringing here that makes the people what they are today. ive always been in a non-conventional house where me and my sis are completely equal and i have been taught what is wrong and what is right. people here look at me and say im so unconventional and uncultural and all that shit....if male domination and discrimination is the culture, then im better off without it.
    its a good thing that i havent been brought up in my father's presence otherwise i wouldnt the person i am right now and would be saying shit like "think of your father and dont generalize indian men" like how i see above....
    im absolutely proud of my mother who went against all odds fighting social forces and being the woman she is today...she is unlike other indian women who are either busy serving their royal husbands or bringing up future royal heirs.
    its bullshit that a middle-class father has all those so-called burdens to bear like educating their daughter and paying for marriage and all that shit....they anyway would have to do it for their sons, then why the burden? or is it a burden only when it comes to their girl child??
    i might be deviating from the actual topic, but its all connected like a giant connected thingy...
    india will never progress if such issues exist....these social issues make me so angry...the damn discrimination and inequality.....
    to add it we have the greats who have commented above about what a demon you are....even if youre a demon, i respect you cause you brought the truth in the light.....
    we need more people like you who are not afraid of saying the truth are being modern and bringing out the fact that women are human beings too...
    -Kartikeyan S (Sudha).
    kartikeyans1@hotmail.com

    {i didnt know how to put my name in the comment as box}

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  35. Hi there!
    I`m an man from Europe, and in general interested in how other cultures and how locals interact.
    I`ve been talking to an Indian girl for sometime now and I have never communicated that good and wholehearted with another person before, and I plan to visit India in july this year, first of all to experience a new culture, and ofcourse because this girl (dont know how it will go in the long run, but nothing is gained without trying, and to be real I already like her alot and I am a believer)
    I have no experience with Indian culture, and I am so exited to visit such an special country, and I have read alot about how women are treated in India, even the news here in Europe has highligted it.
    I find it sad that it`s all generalised - might be true that 99% of men are like you describe, but I am all for second chances and changes, I know many cultures that have the same problems, even Norway where I live had much of the same problems not many decades ago - so my question to you is what are you as part of this culture do about it, and what can be done?
    I think this blog is one step to enlightenment, but also think it is hurtfull written, nonetheless it`s a blog where you express your feelings, so I see your point.

    Just for an statement as well, men other places in the world aint always better, same goes for women. I have been in several relationships with locals here, and I dont find it wierd that divorcerates are so high in western countries - we have become isolated in our own way of livig that has become so materialistic, and every time it has destroyed the relationship and I am tired of it, yes there are people that aint like this, but with the divorcerate of 80% in some countries and increasing means that there is an serious problem over here as well.

    Hope you all find what you are looking for, atleast I got my hopes up this time!

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  36. Hello! Want to know abt u? Ur experience the ill treatment u received? The understanding u have abt family life? The lovelessness u sufferred? The jealosy u experienced? And ur expectation from ur partner? N the ppl u dated and the terms of dating n ur committnent and understandubg u hv shown towards ur relationships if u had any. I know many whom for thier wives sake left thier parents n living separately. Even not from my generation but my prev generation ppl.

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  37. What non-sense.. May be u were in a hurry to get involved with those men.. I totally disagree with this post. After reading "Sex Is Not a Four Letter Word" I thought i will find more sensible blogs and views on your site.. it was really a turn off..

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  38. Hi there! I`m a Russian girl married to an Indian man, and while I don`t have experience about other Indian guys and I`ve certainly heard sayings like these in this post talking about Indian men in general not in the best way, but I just want to tell you that my husband is the most amazing person I`ve ever met! The best of the best, the most respectful, understanding, supporting, modern, ready to sacrifice everything to make me happy. He has travelled a lot, and that also has its impact I suppose, I just wish the girls to be worth the best and meet worthy men in their lives, and let the guys no matter of nationality be real men to deserve real women.

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  39. Hi there! I`m a Russian girl married to an Indian man, and while I don`t have experience about other Indian guys and I`ve certainly heard sayings like these in this post talking about Indian men in general not in the best way, but I just want to tell you that my husband is the most amazing person I`ve ever met! The best of the best, the most respectful, understanding, supporting, modern, ready to sacrifice everything to make me happy. He has travelled a lot, and that also has its impact I suppose, I just wish the girls to be worth the best and meet worthy men in their lives, and let the guys no matter of nationality be real men to deserve real women.

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  40. Anceeta,

    I find Indians to be the kindest, most gracious and beautiful people on the planet. Through some organizations here in the U.S. I've done humanitarian work in India and there I fell in love for the first time--and I mean MADLY in love with the most wonderful Indian man in the world.

    I could go on and on about how he treated his guests like kings and queens, how loving and romantic he was.... He did not have a fear of intimacy like American men do--he was very open about his hopes, dreams, feelings....

    Early on in the relationship I had subtle uneasy feelings... This man, who was a Mother Theresa type of person, who was absolutely wonderful to everyone, was covertly condescending and controlling of me! He called me "his wife" and said that I was closer to him than family. But, he hid our relationship from everyone, forbade me from telling others about it, and he RARELY called me (the relationship was long distance). My heart was always breaking, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He told me to wait "a few years" for our marriage. Well, I think he would've kept saying that indefinitely!!! The worst thing was that his mother had some idea we had something going on between us, and she made sure I knew in a not-so-subtle way that she and him were bonded for life, and that I rank way beneath her. It took 2 years of torture and a friend pointing out that I was being emotionally abused for me to see the light.

    I am still not over my Indian love. We could've had an amazing life...what a team. Even just being around each other we could tell that we belonged together. But whoever ends up marrying him will get the shaft. I just couldn't do it....

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  41. Anceeta,

    Although I was never in a relationship with an Indian man, I was engaged to an Arab American man (Christian) and I do see some similarities in the culture. They both seem to be collectivist societies which I did not notice until we were engaged. You can say I was in love and had those pink rosy glasses on the whole time. He was born and raised in the states, very educated, lived on his own, I had no idea his parents had such control over him until the engagement.

    After the engagement he changed and became very critical, controlling and lying. He cared to much about his families opinion of me, telling me I needed to change and act certain ways around them. I never seemed to be good enough for their son no matter how hard I tried to make him happy. Did he try as much to make me happy - NO, he was too selfish! I was the one who had to do all the compromising in the relationship.

    While I was open to learning and embracing his culture, there comes to a point where they needed to realize that I am not Arab and I will never be. They should've been happy about me being so open minded about their culture. However, I am not going to follow their cultural "rules" 100% as I was not brought up that way and besides, we live in the States. Most importantly, I cannot change most of who I am to be who they want me to be! There came to a point where I was starting to lose my identity and my self esteem. I was having doubts about our marriage and our engagement ultimately ended.

    I am now dating an American as well who compromises and cares about my feelings and knows my worth. I feel so much better about myself. I do not feel like I have to appease his family, I can be myself and they do not judge me. I have built my self esteem back up and have come to the conclusion that it was his loss. He had a girl who would have done almost anything to make him happy.

    I wish him good luck in finding a girl who meets his family's criteria but I doubt any other American girl with a backbone will actually stay in this kind of relationship. No American girl would be o.k with having their feelings always second best to momma's. I ended up telling him that he should just marry an arab girl, that's what his mom wants. He said that he doesn't want that.. He will probably be single for the rest of his life, well actually he already is married, to momma. BTW, I do love my parents. Don't think that American's don't listen to their parents.. we just do not let them control our lives and our relationships.

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    1. Thank you so much for writing this. I also would have done just about anything to make my Indian fiancé happy and prosperous. I was ready to sell my house and give him all the equity for his future mission. At one point after our break up I told him he should completely release me (in his heart) and that he should find a nice Indian girl. This totally crushed him, and he said, "No, don't ever say that, please!!"

      I am flabbergasted that this wonderful man who loved me so deeply could not even TRY to come a little way across the cultural bridge. All the responsibility to cross the cultural barrier was on my shoulders. In his case, too, I wonder if he'll ever marry. In his culture a lot of shame is involved in breaking an engagement, and since his family is so steeped in tradition, he may never marry now. As much as my heart longs to communicate with him once in a while, for both our sakes I've cut all communication.

      Oh, and, while in the relationship, I, too was losing my identity and self esteem. I was being eroded away without even realizing it. Now I pray God brings me a nice man who has the perspective of considering his wife's needs and that "oneness" is between husband and wife and not mother and son.

      I also love my family and listen to them. It is very important to me that they like and approve of a potential mate. Family loves me more than any one and they have only my best interest in mind. I repeat, They have MY best interest in mind--NOT THEIRS. Family is there to love and guide, not own and control.

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    2. That's for responding. I love blogs like this because it feels good to relate to other people who have been in a similar situation. Although I can talk to my family, they do not fully understand what I went through.

      It's interesting that both our ex's don't want someone from their own culture. That would make their family happy and they wouldn't have to worry about molding the girl. If anyone could give insight, that would be great.

      While breaking an engagement in arab culture is not unheard of, divorcing is looked down upon and frankly doesn't happen within the christian community. They'd rather stay in an unhappy relationship than "look bad". It is all about looking good in front of others.

      As noted in the article above, the "men" will always side with their mother, no matter if she is in the right or wrong. They care about their mother's opinion and feeling over the wife. I was coming to realize that there would be no leave and cleave if I stayed with him. Without leaving and cleaving, a relationship is doomed for failure unless the wife is ok with having no say, control, feelings, self respect and dignity.

      I also thought they would be more accepting and open minded because they proclaim to be so religious. Instead, they would go to church passing judgements on other family members, it became so hypocritical. When they started passing judgements on me and criticizing me for the most ridiculous things, it was over.

      I thought I was going to marry a loving, accepting christian family. What I got was a critical, controlling and judgmental family.

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    3. Yep, there would've been no leaving and cleaving for my guy either. So sad, but it just means my heart and life are now open for the right man. It's wonderful that you are now in an affirming and validating relationship. Another confirmation that ending the other relationship was the right choice.

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    4. Yes, there is someone who is a better fit for you out there. You being so open minded and devoted in relationships are qualities that any man should be happy to find in someone. It took me a long time to realize this, but it is his loss. If the engagement period was this troublesome, imagine how the marriage would be.

      I'm taking this as a learning experience. While it is good to be open minded, it is imperative to go into a relationship with eyes wide open, especially in intercultural relationships.

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    5. Thanks so much for that encouragement. Sometimes the Lord allows great heartache in order to refine us and make us like gold. I do think a marriage to my ex fiancé would have been utter aloneness and sadness. I am much more aware now about intercultural relationships. Because I don't want to put limits on God, I won't rule out the possibility, but it would have to be SO obvious that the man is the right one--he would have to pass lots of tests from my family and from my church family. May God richly bless you always.

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  42. i had a piece of shit indian man customer come into my engraving store 5 minutes before closing time, literally demanding that he orders a bunch of shit and get it within 5 minutes, and asking for a discount.
    it takes about 2 hours.

    Indian men are rude, disgusting, filthy subhumans. I'm not some indian bitch you can talk down to just because I am female. fucking prick.

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  43. We blame people for being biased on the basis of gender, region, religion etc... but after reading this post I think it is a biased article about how Indian men are. It is an opinion which is based on your experience with the limited no. of Indian Men u have met in your life. But I must tell you something. I am a girl who is born and brought up in India. My father had treat me and my sister like a princess. My father belongs to a small town in UP but then moved to city due transferable jobs. Still, in-spite of spending most of his years in not so big metro cities he has the ultimate respect for women. Not only this, I am an independent women today who is working in the men oriented technical side Aviation Industry. But trust me the kind of respect and equality I have received from my peers just denies ur theory completely. So i'll suggest that do come and spend few years in India before forming you opinion and stop talking about the stuff which majorly was a part some 20-30 years ago. I agree that still some brats exists who matches your theory but isnt it the case around the globe. Everywhere in the world you can find such men. So it would be totally unjustified and wrong to target Indian Men in particular.

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    1. So all those cases of domestic violence, female infanticide and foeticide, child marriage, child abuse, rapes, molestations, sexual harrassment, honour killings, dowry etc. are just urban myths? I've lived in India for 8 years (5 in a small village and 3 in Bangalore). I know what I am talking about. It is not biased. It is the truth. If it's bitter, I am sorry that I do not sugarcoat it to your liking.

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  44. Hi,

    Actually as an Indian male, i agree with what you said. But I just wanted to tell you that the new coming generation have changed dramatically. They are not the indians you have described them. In fact some of us are kind-hearted, loving people. i am not trying to praise myself but just stating the obvious fact, not all Indian men are like this. Only the ones who have migrated from India will most likely be the way you described in the post. The ones who have lived their childhood here in America will be very different.

    Thanks!

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  45. Thanks so much for sharing this, Anceeta! I have yet to meet an Indian man who has treated me with respect. I even dated one for a while. He ended up being emotionally abusive, and when I tried to tell some mutual friends about it (also Indian men), they dismissed the situation and even threatened to testify against me if I sought counseling for him. I couldn't believe it, after how feminist they claimed to be, they were condoning abuse! Not only that, but practically every Indian guy who I didn't know has sexually harassed me, once it was even during a physician's appointment. The only contact I had with any of these men were in professional settings, and it still led to sexual harassment. I honestly believe that Indian men CANNOT and SHOULD NOT be trusted. They're all abusive, either by being an abuser themselves or condoning abusive behavior.

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    1. It's ridiculous! I have been sexually harassed by men on the road and groped in public transportation almost every day I lived in India. I was molested as a child by an Indian. They are abusive (emotionally and physically) and treat women as objects. We aren't treated as humans with feelings. Most Indian men marry not to gain a wife, a partner but a maid who you do not need to pay.

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  46. Wow, this is by far the most ignorant article I have ever read. And the author defends her point like her life depends on it. Indian men are not arrogant or dominating at all. Mostly the kind of things you see in an Indian household does not bother Indian women. They don't mind cooking for their family, in fact they find it fulfilling. That's what our mothers teach us. Today India is totally different from what you are describing. But there are certain things that we Indian women are proud to hold on to. We believe its a wife's duty to hold the family together and see to it that they are all well fed. But if our husband happens to be an arrogant self obsessed asshole, we know how to deal with him as well. To be frank most Indian men are more caring and protective of their family than men from any other country. Today its nothing new for Indian men to help in the kitchen or cleaning or any other household work. They have a much higher IQ and understanding of a women's mind than the retards I have had a chance work with. What's more, they are always ready to take up the entire financial burden by themselves if their wives decide to quit her job. Which I rarely see in the western world. You should really think about how hurtful it is to the society you are demeaning with your article. People who do not know about India (which includes you) or Indian culture or the preferred role that Indian women want to play in their family (most of them, because here we know career is till you retire and family is till you die) should write about world peace like beauty pageant winners do. Men here know what it is to be the man in the family and what example he should set for his kids. Women here are inherently taught about how fulfilling and challenging raising a family is. That's why our kids take care of us when we grow old and not leave us alone in an old age home to die. You my dear are not an Indian. If you were then this would make more sense to you. Here women and men are ready to sacrifice for their kids and your kids will take care of you and pay you back for all the sacrifices when you grow old. There are women who consider their career to be the priority. If they have been honest about it when they got married, I don't think men will force them against it. Even if they weren't honest, the worst ending typically is a divorce. We have equality in gender in India. Its not like anyone can force women to stay home and do what her husband wants. We do it by our own choice if and when we think its best for the family. There are households in places like Kerala where men voluntarily sacrifice bright careers to look after the kids, because his wife got a better job that requires travelling. Just google Kerala more to life than GDP and see the facts for yourself. And please don't claim whatever you have written to be true and expect people to take your word for it. Furnish some proof, state some facts. I read your article and I find it to be written by a girl who had some bad experiences with a couple of men in India.
    Saroja Sunil

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    1. First of all, everything you write implies that women are inferior to men and that if men are being nice, they are doing women a favour and that is something great that they are doing. Have you met any Indian men? If you did, you would not say "Indian men are not arrogant or dominating at all."

      Yes, the things that happen in Indian households do not bother Indian women because they are taught to accept it. They are taught it is normal. No one tells them that they deserve better. You do what your mothers teach you and your mothers were taught by your grandmothers... Basically, it's kept as a patriarchal society and women are TOLD and TAUGHT to compromise, learn to cook, clean and basically be a doormat. You are absolutely right! And you think it's okay that women should be content living in their husbands' shadows?

      How many countries have you lived in to say that Indian men are better than any other men from anywhere else?

      When you say "Today its nothing new for Indian men to help in the kitchen or cleaning or any other household work.", you sound so surprised and grateful! Hello! They live in that house, eat food there! They SHOULD help in doing 50% of the housework! It's not a favour they are doing!

      Yes, they do take the position of the breadwinner and always make the wife feel that because he is the one earning, she should be bloody grateful and kiss his shoes. This is in EVERY Indian household (and other countries too) where the man is the sole breadwinner.

      I don't know about India? Being sexually molested at 3, groped on public transportation for 3 years almost daily, eve teased on my way to school, having Indian parents, living in an Indian society and having lived in India for 8 years, I don't know Indians? Who are you to tell me what I do and do not know?

      I am sorry if you need someone to take care of you when you are old. Be self sufficient and do not bother your children when you get old. Let them make their own lives without you being a burden on them.

      You calling me "not an Indian" is the greatest compliment! I HATE Indians!

      GENDER EQUALITY in India? You really are delusional, aren't you? Rapes, molestations, sexual harassment, female infanticide, female foeticide etc. sound like gender equality to you? Heard about honour killings? Women being burnt alive because they didn't get enough dowry? Women are not forced by their families, husbands or in-laws? Please read some news and broaden your mind.

      YOU show me some facts. Tell me where it shows that Indian men are better than any other men from any other country? Where's the proof for gender equality? Where's the proof that your kids will take care of you when you are old? Where is the proof that women have a choice?

      I find your comment absolutely naive. Some lady from god knows where who has no clue what goes on in the Indian society and has Stockholm syndrome gives her opinion.

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  47. This is so true!!!! I am a white woman and was married to an Indian man for 5 years. It was hell on earth. Most Indian men physically abuse their wives too. Anyway, I'm glad to be moving on. I have 2 beautiful children from the marriage and if my daughter ever comes home with an Indian man I will go mad!!!!

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  49. Hi Anceeta!
    Spot on! Everything you said here is Abso-fucking-lutely TRUE!!! I used to date an indian guy, he's the most selfish, self-centered beast i've ever known in my entire life.. Not to mention he's a liar and a number one user! Glad I ditched the bastard!

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  50. I agree on this 100% good article

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  51. good article indian man are asshole oh no they worse

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  52. Oh girlie, I am getting a kick of all these Indian men irked. Guys whats the matter? Are you jealous that Indian women are rejecting you for other races. Maybe if you werent assholes, it wouldnt be a problem. You are losing out.

    Let me tell you my story, I was born abroad and never lived in India. Since I grew up away from my culture, I was curious and wanted to date an Indian and fascinated by arranged marriage. In no time I quickly CHANGED MY MIND! All the men I dated wee immature, self-centered assholes. Glad I ditched them.

    My goodness, the behavior and attitudes of men are disgusting!!! It's exactly what you described. Even the new generation is no different. Rude, selfish, possessive, disrespectful to women especially their wives, and just immature, narcissistic assholes. I cant stand it.

    I prefer any race but Indian and middle eastern. I am very tall for an Indian woman. I'm 5'7 and most Indian guys are too short for me.

    Plus, only when I started going to Indian functions I noticed the BS of our culture: superiority complex, rudeness, gossip, cliquishness and stupidity. There is a way to converse and share views without making the other person feel stupid.

    The worst is the racist attitudes. I dont get why Indians come to the USA and then only stick to themselves and judge other races. I hang out with people of other races and open-minded Indians. I've often heard that they were curious about Indians, culture, and so on but many Indians are cliquish and rude. A friend of mine is a guy who works in an IT industry with many Indian men. He also tells me he cannot stand Indian men either as a guy and wouldnt want to hang out with them.

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    1. Are you my lost sister? You have put my thoughts into words! I agree with everything you have said! So glad that you didn't have an arranged marriage and then realise the truth behind them all.

      Thanks for reading!

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  53. Holy crapola batman! Continue to set the truth free Anceeta. - A Fellow Supporter

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  54. This is a nice blog...

    I have been single for 1 year now. Missed the bitching :P

    Thanks for reminding me that it's good to be single....

    Cheers!!!

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  55. I am an Indian guy currently residing in Bahrain.....ah wait.....you don't date Indians! I will pass you then...1 less girl in 3 billion, big deal ;)

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    1. I rejected you even before you read this post. Who are you to "pass" me? LOL

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  56. Indian men and all that apart, you have one razor sharp tongue. May god help the poor guy who will decide to spend his life with you. Thank god there are still elegant, gentle and sweet ladies in this world.

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    1. Because I stand up for my rights and voice my opinions I am not elegant? Only an Indian, sexist asshole would say that. I am not a doormat and will never shut up when men abuse me.

      Nobody asked you to marry me, so please fuck off.

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    2. She's just speaking up for herself; she's still elegant, gentle, and sweet toward men who deserve it. Every time an Indian man replies on here, it just proves her point even further; women are viewed as second-class citizens by Indian men. Their emotions and experiences mean absolutely nothing to Indian men. (I have PLENTY of personal experience with this myself.) This is exactly why so many women don't want to marry Indian men. Where I'm from, there are millions of young men who will not only treat an Indian woman as a true equal, they find Indian women to be some of the most beautiful women in the world! Just remember, with the gender ratio being so unbalanced, Indian society has already made it extremely difficult for you to find a wife. Don't make it even harder for yourself by being a misogynist on top of that.

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    3. God! you both are just too much. How much do you know me to say that I am a misogynist or will find it difficult to get love!

      I did not find Anceeta's reply constructive but I see that you are willing to talk in a civilized way so let's go ahead.

      Don't mean to brag here, but I am an avid traveler who has lived in over 12 countries across 4 continents. Both the gender have issues with each other in each of the country I visited, we both are from different planets eh?

      Smart women AND men know how to live a good life with respect. I know a couple of girls married to North Americans and they miss being with an Indian guy who is not practical all the time and is not like a wall to talk to!

      I am myself with a Spaniard with over 3 years now, she is amazing and loving and she does not like Spanish guys! Guess what else? She tells me all the time that romance and love is lost in Europe, most guys are assholes (see the similarity?).

      I suggest Miss Anceeta speak for herself rather than taking the burden of the entire female fraternity, most of which is definitely unlike her.

      Last but not the least, Miss Anceeta I see that you are very happy NOT to be called an Indian. Most foreigners will laugh their ass off that statement and label you a coward who is not willing to change her country but ready to be treated like a second class citizen in other countries and actually you're actually proud of that!

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    4. My reply wasn't constructive because you basically asked me to be a doormat. It's sad to see that no matter where Indian go, no matter how much they travel, Indians will remain Indians. You are right: "Indian guy who is not practical all the time"

      If you found a Spanish doormat, congratulations!

      Indians women aren't like me that's why they are suffering.

      You are an imbecile if you think others will "laugh their ass off" because I can't change 1.3 BILLION people single-handedly. And don't make me question your sanity further when you ASSUME that I am treated like a second class citizen. Too bad that other countries made you feel like their second class citizen. Maybe it was your Indian attitude.

      Lastly, I do not give a fuck about what foreigners say about me. LOL. Typical Indian thing to care about "what others think/say".

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    5. Sweetheart I know you will have a fantastic life licking ass of some smart white guy who will wipe his ass and throw you. And you're right, you're not second class but a third class citizen. What a jerk case! LOL

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    6. "Anonymous", your misogynist attitudes are quite obvious. Instead of being sympathetic toward the bad experiences all of us women on here have had, you act like we're all delusional. IGNORANCE is the reason Indian women are still treated in the awful manner they are being treated by Indian men. In my experience, Indian men band together to protect another man's bad behavior toward women, and that's what I see happening here as well. Reading all these comments from Indian men is making me begin to hate them now, too.

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    7. Sarina, frustrated women hate various kinds of men across the globe depending on their experiences. Ever seen the tons 40 something single mothers driving big cars in the states and going to latin america to satisfy their sexual urges and travelling to Asia to find happiness? They too have given up their unrealistic expectations about love. You have given up men from just one country right now, looking at your attitude, I can assure you more countries are lined up.

      IMPORTANT: Men and women are the same across the globe, some assholes, some nice, some bitching maniacs (like the blogger) some frustrated like you and others always smiling/happy like me & my sweetheart :P

      PS: I post as Anonymous because I don't want my Identity to influence how people understand my opinion.

      Also, take one advice, the more bitch you are while selecting guys, the more asshole types you attract. Because the nice guys will not have the balls to pursue you. So stop being a bitch, or whatever slim chances you have of being with nice guys will be over :/

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    8. Dude, calm your tits. You are getting too defensive. As if you know we are right but don't want to accept it. Anyway. Don't assume we hate men. I love men! But I hate INDIAN men. I've been in the best relationship ever for the past three years. And he is the most nicest, amazing person and we have been blissfully happy (fyi). BUT I find nothing wrong in women in their huge cars having sex with Latin guys. It's their choice. Kudos to them for not settling for guys like you!

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    9. You messed with the wrong man sweetie. I specialize in defending men against bitches :D

      Anyway, I am super calm sweetie, but I don't see any tits on you. Lost them somewhere?

      Relationship with a bitch like you? LOL Either he is a loser who can't find better girls OR He is just interested in fuck and ditching you later, which is what bitches like you deserve and actually already have been through eh?

      Anyway, GIVE UP your Indian Passport, you don't deserve it if you hate to be called Indian! WALK YOUR TALK!

      Go begging to some other country for residency, chase and marry some western guy. They are known to take the less privileged ass-licking Asian girls to west because their girls are sometimes worse than you. But they may use you a lot before one of them decides to gift you his country's citizenship. Sadly many Thai, Indonesians, Filipinos are already doing that, we will make a new category "Indian Bitches" :) No wonder most of my american friends say that they feel like a king in Asia with all the bitches trying to seduce them. Hurry!! start hunting!!

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    10. It's not the nationality I have a problem with, it's the way I've been treated by all except one Indian man in my lifetime, and I've known many. Funny thing is the one Indian man I'm friends with, (I mean we're VERY, VERY close, we tell each other pretty much everything) constantly complains about the way he sees other Indian men treating women. And honestly, if he ever wanted a romantic relationship, I'd be stupid to turn him down. I feel that way because he RESPECTS me, which is something you obviously don't. Who are you to call us names?! Do you really think you're helping change our mind about Indian men? Also, I have MANY, many wonderful nice guys pursue me, but I'm very focused on my career right now, so I don't want a relationship at all at this point. Another thing, I am not attracted to white guys, so don't act like this is about race.

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    11. Oh wow. You not only hate me for speaking up but have such a demeaning attitude towards Thai, Indonesian and Filipino ladies. Thank you for proving that everything I wrote above is true. :)

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  57. sounds like this bloger ancceta screwed by mostly indians guy,now she found herself guilty!!!!give arab mans some time they show you they r better then indian mans.and yes they dont mind if u date wth scores of mens at a time cause they r broad minded mens not like indians mama boys who prefer one partner at a time.and yes u r writing very blog,to short them just write u hate indians they r jerks assholes thats it.

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  58. I agree with everything the author wrote here. I am non-Indian and dated an educated Indian guy for several months. I wish read this blog before I got involved. Indian men are players, users, liars, and lousy in the romantic department. The will never respect women because they have big egos.

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  59. your a really spiteful person and if you do have Indian background which I doubt, its no wonder things are going to get worse for both genders in India. If more Indian girls become like you with a selfish and spineless attitude which is already happening and you cannot deny that, then god help those who do decide to settle down with you. It will lead to a divorce anyway lol. Hate me as much as you like I don't care the only comfort to me is that not all Indian girls are like you. Don't misunderstand me I have nothing against women the most inspirational people in my life are women and they would never hate as much as you do. I can see the hatred in you and its so raw it baffles me. I know you not a fan of Ghandi him being Indian and all but remember the weak can never forgive only the strong can forgive and you are not strong me thinks. One last thing before you post abuse back to me, It's obvious you are a western feminist which country do you work for the US or the UK

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    1. Whichever country I work for, they do not rape me, harass me or think that I should be submissive and a doormat.

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    2. LOL US and UK have one of the highest Rape per 100,000 people. The Indian media has blown the facts to the size of Burj Khalifa. The blogger is a naive and dumb, who blindly follows the media.

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_statistics

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    3. Wikipedia? That's your source.

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  60. Hey Anceeta, I'm an indian teen living in Australia and seem to be conscious about the sexist behaviour throughout India and to be honest, in my very home. It IS very difficult to walk hand in hand with typical Indian guys with their "Bollywood" fantasies. Just dropped a comment to say LOVE YOUR BLOG :D My Italian gf, Isabelle enjoyed reading it after me and thank goodness... she told me I was nothing like it :P Thanks YOU for putting it straight to the face for so many ^.^

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  61. Hey i love u gal....i met dis Indian man in my class....but lol m Indian too but from Fiji ...he is from India....he was stuck wid a unit as he failed and asked for my help......i sed ya.....the next day ,he told me to come over to his galfren's place and help him and his galfren who also failed d unit..... LIKE HE ORDERED ME TO COME....like he had no freaking courtesy to ask me how will i come?....WILL I COME BY CAB, CAR OR WALK DOWN??....like all this time he was flirting wid me and did not say that he had a galfren......i sed no i can't ........Can u bilive love ,dis ashole indian guy used to text and col me almost everyday !!!.....when i sed no he stopped altogether.....like i wonder what kind of a human-being is dis son of a bitch??!!!.........my elder sister got mad at me and told me to concentrate on my studies first and stop helping ashole students....esp the ones from India .....so i have promised myself , thats what i am going to do from now onwards....i mean the fucken teachers are earning 50K so y shud i help some students who r weak???....I GET NOTHING BEK!!!....who knws i mite get worst treatment !!!....so my frens, in 2014 just help people who help u ....plus i think people from India have no manners man ....abs no manners !!!!

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    1. Agreed. Most Asians don't have the words "please", "thank you" and "sorry" in their dictionary. I've realized this over a billion times in my own dad... he NEVER used the 3 and just for a joke, can be quite racist at times which really disgusts me :\

      As for that indian guy... he.. well Definitely isn't worth going after. May sound like a cliché, but there'll be countless guys with various personalities. You need someone that respects you for who you are and so go after those that value your support and friendship... not like that weirdo who in my point of view was trying to use you.

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  62. Hi, Anceeta! You're really cute, but anyway, I'm an Indian guy and I can see where you're coming from. I was born and raised in Canada, so I'm a little upset that you say ALL Indian men are like this. I can tell you for a fact, no one in my household acts like this period. I'm not saying this doesn't happen in India, but it's a little disappointing that you'd paint all brown skinned man with this stigma. Anyhow, I'm not saying there's no truth to this. And I still think your cute :)

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  63. Hi Anceeta!! I am an Indian girl and well since I found mostly Indian males replying to your post thought I can add to your viewpoint...Im not saying your wrong completely but you cannot simply defend your perspective just for the sake it...men all around the world are the same...if your blaming indian men...well you should go over middle eastern countries or africa for that matter....the situation is there even worse. Even in western countries, men indirectly are more dominating...but since they tend not to pronounce their feelings they eventually fall to infidelity...and so increased divorces in west.Whereas in India, things have become better to what you have portrayed but people try to stay loyal to each other...yes differences lie...but indian men comes with the baggage of their family unlike in west...but there's not enough to blame them. But india has improved...girls here have more freedom than before and maybe after a certain point of time we will strike a balance which I personally believe is impossible to achieve if you wish to have a secure life...as too much freedom can spoil people at times.

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  64. The previous poster has a point. The type of misogynistic behavior she's describing is not unique to India, but can be found in most poverty-stricken societies where gender norms tend be to backward because they reflect the lack of economic agency that handicaps women. Anyone who doesn't belief me should google the ongoing rape epidemic in the Congo or the still flourishing practice of female infanticide in China.

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