Feminine, Flirty, & Fabulous

There are so many things I want to be doing, that I struggle with. One of them is dressing up intentionally everyday. While I do wear clean, ironed and fitting clothes, I do not spend as much time as I would like to with my clothes, to come up with different outfits, or to plan the right accessories for them.

I do have some lovely pieces of clothes but I do not enhance my entire look with accessories, which is a shame if you ask me. I have jewellery that I picked out myself and love but rarely do I change my pieces. I sleep with my earrings and necklaces on because I know that I will not make time in the morning to go through my jewellery collection and pick the right pieces for the outfit of the day.

I also do not apply makeup as often as I would like to. Sometimes, I spend so much time puttering in the morning that I do not have time for makeup and picking jewellery. What's worse, I do not prepare my outfits the night before either.

While I could blame the lack of time, I know that is not the reason. The reason I do not dress intentionally is that I have not prioritised my looks yet. I do regret that I have spent the majority of my youth not caring about how I look. I do not think that I look unpresentable but there is so much room for improvement. There is so much potential for me to do better in terms of my outfits and presentation.

As a child, I changed my outfit three times a day. (My grandmother and mother reminded me, of my love for clothes as a child and how it annoyed them, into my teenage.) I loved dresses (especially maxi dresses) as a little girl but somewhere along the way, I forgot. Maybe life became busy and complicated and I forgot about me. But it is never too late to re-start doing what once brought you so much joy.

One of the biggest steps I have begun to take is filling my wardrobe with more feminine pieces. Women's fashion in the past five years or more has gravitated towards a more masculine, relaxed, tailored, and oversized outfits. Initially, I adapted it because it really leans into my personality trait of being efficient but somewhere along the way, I lost my femininity. I stopped wearing fitted, floral, dressy outfits and instead wore pants, oversized shirts and T-shirts almost everyday. It almost felt like I wanted to blend into the background.

But not anymore: I am ready to bring back florals, patterns, dresses, and skirts. I want to rediscover my love for feminine fashion.

I have been admiring Farm Rio's designs.

I will not throw my current clothes out but rather add dresses in to my rotation of jeans and trousers during the week. If I buy anything new from now on, I will ask myself if it is "feminine, flirty, and fabulous". I want my outfit to turn heads and grab attention. I want a little girl to look up at me and think, "When I grow older, I will dress like her".

My main goal may be to feel amazing in my outfit but hopefully that will inspire women, who come across me, to look more feminine as well.